Do you really know the person your attempting to spend the rest of your life with? and I use the word 'attempting' strongly because of America's divorce rates. but you already know how i feel about that issue so i digress.. Cohabiting with your significant other is a huge step in any relationship, and it gives you an honest understanding of what to look forward to.. the snoring. dirty dishes. clothes everywhere. etc, is what you can clean up before you invite someone to your home.. and as people if we pay even a single dime for anything we're going to treat it as we please.. The issue of living together is less about finding out the negatives about your
mate, and more about building household roles to better run your family. you don't do anything in life without some sort of preparation or test run, so why would you not prepare for marriage.. Now some people refer to this as 'shacking up' or 'playing house' and i can understand their point of view. i've cohabited once in my life and it's easy to assume the roles of husband and wife without having the title.. some would argue that the title doesn't mean anything because it's about the relationship not the titles, and they are completely wrong.. it is about the titles and the titles make the ultimate difference. by living together your putting
yourself at risk of creating permanent habits that will reside once the vows are said and the cake is cut. and you may be in for a serious rude awakening after the fact.. But i believe it's important to know what your getting into, so i'm willing to take the risk of cohabitation. but you have to understand and remind yourselves of the fact that your not married yet. daily focus is a must for this situation.. The maturity and most importantly the discipline that you display during that period will be the biggest test of your relationship. so don't get ahead of yourself.. the best is yet to come... what do you think?
mate, and more about building household roles to better run your family. you don't do anything in life without some sort of preparation or test run, so why would you not prepare for marriage.. Now some people refer to this as 'shacking up' or 'playing house' and i can understand their point of view. i've cohabited once in my life and it's easy to assume the roles of husband and wife without having the title.. some would argue that the title doesn't mean anything because it's about the relationship not the titles, and they are completely wrong.. it is about the titles and the titles make the ultimate difference. by living together your putting yourself at risk of creating permanent habits that will reside once the vows are said and the cake is cut. and you may be in for a serious rude awakening after the fact.. But i believe it's important to know what your getting into, so i'm willing to take the risk of cohabitation. but you have to understand and remind yourselves of the fact that your not married yet. daily focus is a must for this situation.. The maturity and most importantly the discipline that you display during that period will be the biggest test of your relationship. so don't get ahead of yourself.. the best is yet to come... what do you think?
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