? how often do you Celebrate yourself (besides your birthday)

Cheers to you! Go have yourself a strong drink with a little bit of sin on the side. enjoy being able to wake up this morning, regardless of these gas prices and your money problems. at this time in our economy there are very few things we actually have control over, but happiness is something that can never be denied.. Happiness is the reason for life. so if you don't have it then what are you living for? I know, when your money gets a little tight it can take away the spirit of having fun cause most of the things we base our fun around cost money. but that just means that you have to get a little more creative in your efforts.. fellas if you don't have the duckets to toss around at the bar, anyone but the driver should buy some alchohol and drink before you get there (i know i'm not the only one). and ladies if you can't go shopping like you normally do, it's ok to buy items on sale (nobody knows the difference sweetie).. it's amazing what you'll discover when you separate that overly proud mentality that America has instilled into us. and when you begin to realize that none of the superficial shit even matters is when you'll have them all.. You must comprehend the fact that you are important, and deserve to enjoy your life just as much as anyone else. and money is no object in your ability to have anymore or anyless fun.. you can go see a movie. or go out to eat with friends, whatever you enjoy. the gesture isn't what counts as much as you telling yourself 'i'm working my ass off and deserve fun'. that's empowerment and success in one phrase.. Me, i am actually taking a break from celebration tonight. I will be watching Barak and John punch each other in the mouth in this debate. but i fully encourage you to have a drink or two for me, and have some fun for yourself.. God only gives us one go around. so make sure HAPPINESS is top priority... what do you think?

? should you be Obligated to your family members regardless of their Behavior

'There's one in every family'. this quote is mainly used to describe drug addicts and how there's one in every family. but you could also use it to describe relatives that constantly do foul shit.. there is crime all around us everyday and those commiting the acts are related to somebody.. now that concept can either give you hope, or scare the hell out of you.. I think it's a good thing though. family is where the heart is so for anyone needing proper rehabilitation the heart needs the most attention.. It's not only reserved to crime though. there is accepted racism within households on a daily basis as well. kids are looking the other way as they're parents make some of the most shameful comments known to man. i've had fathers looking at me crazy for dating their daughters, and it's just pure ignorance.. not to mention extreme acts of domestic violence that happens in homes.. As far as i'm concerned we're all here on this earth just trying to make it. no one is any better than anyone else and you meet people along your journey to help you get to where you eventually want to be.. Do you actually know the word family even means? well there are a couple of expressions i found from Merriam-Webster but the main concepts are a fellowship. household. a group of things related by common characteristics, etc.. but it didn't emphisize a group of persons of common ancestry or being born from the same blood line.. I don't play that blood is thicker than water shit personally.. the best thing God ever blessed me with has been great friends, and they are family to me. i see everyone that's related to me by blood or not, as the same.. we're all just people and i'm more concerned with what someone's soul is like. forget the physical. i've seen family members do worse things to each other than complete strangers, and that should never be tollerated.. When dealing with biological family I do believe they should get the first chance at the good you have to offer. but if they don't reciprocate, pray for them and move on.. So learn to accept people for who they are because the same blood line doesn't guarantee the same principles of living.. and remember that biological relation is not the definition of family... what do you think?

? is Domestic violence America's biggest secret

Just because you don't see it live and in person doesn't mean it isn't happening.. or maybe you do see it and it's just normal for you.. we'll i'm one of those who never sees it, but the statistics made me stop what i was originally gonna blog about today and focus on this. and fellas don't think this is just about women who are being abused. women represent 90% of all victoms which means they're coming after us also.. The numbers for domestic violence cases per year are past alarming.. there are between 1 million- 3 million incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, or bf/gf per year.. over 500,000 women are stalked every year.. 76% of rape cases per year are comitted by a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or a date.. there are actually many more facts but you get my point.. I think the craziest part about these facts is that this is only what has been reported. just think about how much is going on and kept underwraps.. children are also deeply affected by this as well. they rarely say anything about domestic violence situation but breed that sadness and anger inside and that will eventully display it's self. more than likely as an adult when there are no 2nd chances for them.. But what can we do? that is the biggest question concerning domestic violence because after all it's happening in the privacy of your own home.. I used to think about men hitting women and it would honestly make me sick to my stomach. i couldn't fathom the concept much less the action.. but one day i saw my neighbor going to jail for hitting his wife because she was cheating and stealing his money behind his back.. he was a very decent man who worked hard everyday. so i started to think maybe i'm being too initially judgemental on men in these cases; seeing as though i've never given my life to anyone for them to crush it with a few foul acts of selfishness.. now i'm not condoning what he did. but i definitely understand it.. most situations dealing with domestic violence are not like my former neighbors though. most are insecure men who need to feel a sense of dominance or worth that they're not receiving somewhere else in life. maybe @ work, or maybe in bed (such little fellas).. The majority of people don't even notice the warning signs either. i know serveral people who honestly believe that drama in a relationship makes it stronger. they think after you've made up you've gotten one step closer to a great relationship.. no, dumbasses!.. you've gotten one step closer to an orgasm, because make up sex is the best sex ever. and that's it, the drama starts back up tomorrow.. I think we all need to take a step back and consider what role each gender plays in this crisis.. Men we need to take more control and responsibility of our emotions. and Women need to take more control over their personal well being and emotions to be able to say 'no!', 'this is enough'.. cause at the end of the day everyone's situation is different. but violence should never be the conclusion for any of them... what do you think?

? do you think Chivalry is dead or in a coma

I'm not sure of many people who don't have an opinion on this one. and for those that don't know what chivalry is in the first place, they don't count anyway.. Now i'm speaking of chivalry in gerneral terms because of coarse many people are still practacing proper habits, the majority are not though.. the definition of chivalry is the combination of qualities expected of the ideal medieval knight such as courage, honor, loyalty, etc. and it emphisizes consideration for others, especially women.. as a gender men are slipping big time with this. we're more inclined to walk through a door and hold it open, instead of opening and letting your lady go through first. not being super chivalrous doesn't exclude you from being a great man. but not having any does exclude you from all consideration.. the issue i believe most men have with practicing chivalry is the fact that they don't think most women deserve it.. the logical next question would be 'why would you date someone who doesn't deserve chivalry?'. the same reasons why you would date someone who does. great companionship, random sex, or both. and most of the time it's the sex.. But women need to step their game up also.. yeah i said it.. and if your on your shit than disregard my next few sentences cause i'm not addressing you.. You see chivalry is a privilege not an obligation. too many women are taking it for granted without obtaining the proper prerequisites for the acceptance of such gestures.. such as class, respect for yourselves, being humble, etc.. Now i personally don't discriminate, i practice chivalry with good girls as well as ho's. but i have been out on a date semi-recently and didn't initiate any type of chivalry because it wasn't necessary. i mean she was fine but she didn't know chivalry from cavalry, so i was gonna have a good night regardless.. But even with my dating experience i do believe that chivalry should be practiced at all times. you should always be on your shit even if no one wants to join you.. So i guess chivalry is in a coma because being a gentleman and performing decent habits will never go out of style.. I personally don't think it's too much to ask from men and women.. Everyone should be held to higher standards... what do you think?

? do you accept people based on Who they Are or Who they're Going to be

Have you ever heard someone say 'I love who he/she is gonna be in the future'. so what do you do with the person that's in your face right now? I refer to potential as 'character credit', and based on how much you have everything from jobs to love interests will come your way.. rehabilitation is something that every person goes through, and rightfully so because no one on earth is ever going to be perfect. but why do certain people feel worse than others presenting there mistakes? what you go through does make you who you are good or bad.. Our society has an unspoken mistake system that we're all judged on and no it's NOT FAIR. but that's life.. the beauty of the system is that you can override it whenever you want to.. so if society doesn't give an ex-con a chance, you can. if society doesn't give a former drug addict love, you can.. Now some things do make me scratch my head when it comes to accepting someone for who they are. just because you have to be accepted for who you are doesn't mean you should abuse the free will your given. as a man you should want to be respected as a father and known as a provider. so you have to work your ass off in life in order to be referred to as such. and for women ya'll eventually want to be referred to as mothers, so i think it's important to not be a hor.. the words mother and hor don't even fit in the same sentence, but we have plenty of them across this great nation.. Now this isn't to put anyone down or make anyone feel bad about what they've done in the past or are doing now. but a higher level of attention needs to be given to the choices that are made, BEFORE they're made instead of bailing out by saying 'accept me for who I am' after the fact.. and if you really don't give a damn, then strut your stuff. i won't agree with you but i can respect someone who can recognize who they are positive or negative. we as an audience can only call it how we see it.. So fellas if you spend alot of money on women, then decide to stop and wonder why she stops calling you. or ladies if you give it up fast normally and decide not to this time because you think he's special, and he stops calling you. neither of you can be upset. they accepted you for who you are and you changed. that's what we call false advertising. they want the same deal everybody else got and there's nothing wrong with that.. i'm basically saying with both analogies that you must live with every decision you make even after you learn and grow from them.. My main point is that if you want someone to accept you for who you are. make sure that it's something you can be proud of, or be willing to speak about openly and honestly if your not proud. It's you. be a man/woman and take responsibility for your actions past and present.. And don't accept someone for what their going to be because their potential may not turn into anything.. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. and garbage is beautiful to homelss people, but that doesn't make it acceptable... what do you think?