? can Friends with Benefits actually work

I personally refer to this as a "Physical Understanding".. It can be one of the best experiences you've ever had. or it can be an annoying drama filled situation.. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, and a friendship with someone. the problem is when that's not properly communicated. emotions are a crazy thing, and if your not careful you can find yourself tangled in a web of them with no quick escape. what starts out as a couple of fun outings turns quickly into compulsive habits that you honestly can't control.. I think if executed properly with a common understanding, that this is the best situation for people 'not looking' to get married. it saves so much time and energy.. Now I'm not oblivious to the fact that people aren't suppose to be having sex before marriage. but how many virgins do you know?.. don't worry, I'll wait.. It's apart of life so you might as well be physically and mentally responsible about it. now the mental portion of the puzzle is the part that we need more practice with.. My advocacy for friends with benefits has less to do with random sex, and more to do with reality. so many great friendships are ruined when people assume that sex is enough to base a relationship on. it usually only represents 15% of a relationship anyway (unless your a beast) so what are you doing with the other 85%? titles like 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' are unofficial jokes to me. you don't owe anyone anything until a ring is put on a finger.. but there is one mandatory stipulation to this type of an arrangement. you must be ready at anytime for your 'friend' to tell you they have met someone else, and the physical part of the friendship must end. if you're not able to handle that, then don't even participate.. So the next time your getting into a relationship so you don't feel bad about the sex your having. just remember that having a title with someone in vain, is much worse than just admitting that you have a 'physical understanding' with a friend... what do you think?-

? can you cheat on someone Emotionally

Have you ever found yourself staring too hard and too long at someone attractive while having a significant other? Now there is a difference between admiring and gocking. I'm referring to gocking.. My friend Jordan and I refer to this as "disrespecting yourself". it's that feeling you get when you find yourself in too much admiration over someone's physical attributes or overall swagger.. Now no matter who admits it. people married or not married deal with this everyday in a huge way. and it shouldn't be taken for granted.. for example. when your put in a situation such as a 40 hour work week. or making a routine stop. where you have to look at something to make the time go by. you'll eventually find something that you like. and it'll get stronger everyday.. It may just be that your going through a tough point in a relationship and your curiosity is getting the best of you. or it may be that you have out grown your situation and are attracted to a different type of person altogether.. But the feelings that you experience while in the presence of 'John/Jane Doe' are there for a reason, and should be addressed.. Now besides the obvious physical differences. emotions are the main difference between men and women. women have too many, and men don't have enough. That's why I tell men that have a lady to, "stay on top of your shit".. You have to make sure your woman feels appreciated everyday. because somebody else will.. women talk about relationships to their friends and co-workers all the time. and if it isn't positive most of the time. then her eyes are wondering somewhere else.. That's why being at your best mentally, verbally, and physically at all times is the best way to live. It's easy to begin coasting when you get into a relationship because you've found someone. but that's when you need to be at your best.. You can't spend every second with your partner. and you can't control who they are attracted to. so you must be on top of your shit individually. or that emotional cheating will become physical... what do you think?

? is it really ok for a Woman to make more Money than her Man

Since the late 1960's when President Lyndon B. Johnson made equal employment opportunities an American agenda. women have been doing extremely well over the past 40 years.. Women are assuming titles ranging from proffessional athlete to chief executive officer, it truely is a beautiful thing.. Now on the other hand men we have pretty much tapped out our nation as far as new job industries are concerned. any industry you decide to join is overly saturated. so when the markets are maxed out, the price for labor reaches a peak and then slowly begins to decrease. so pretty much men went out of style in the 80's, and women began kicking corporate ass and gaining higher levels of education.. now men are still making roughly $7,000 more than women. but among all couples 33% of women are making more than there men. and women are accounting for 43% of the household income. What's a man to do to keep his ego strong? I personally have never had a problem with it. but I've also always had aspirations of being very wealthy individually. so if my woman did make more than me, that doesn't make me a bum. it just means that she's crazy paid.. But the real question to ask here isn't the one I presented. the real question is what kind of life is the man in the relationship living, and is he comfortable with that.. Money damn sure isn't everything, and it doesn't measure the worth of a man. that would be too easy, and humans are properly complicated.. So as men we don't need to be checking the pockets of our women, as much as we're checking the quality of our character.. damn that sounds so cliche'. but it's true... what you think?-

? who in the hell is Sarah Palin

Well if this isn't the case of the kettle calling the pot black then I don't know what is.. Senator McCain has been beating Barak Obama over the head with the lack of experience garbage. and then selects someone who as of 10 years ago was serving a second term on the city council in Wasilla, Alaska.. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. The fact that Obama-Biden is looking like money in the bank right about now is great. But the fact that McCain-Palin is even a possibility scares the hell out of me.. This is pure irresponsibility on the part of John. His old ass has no business having someone so inexperienced as his #2. The average age of death in America is 77 years of age. McCain just turned 72 this past friday.. he honestly may not make it if chosen. if you like her that much, then grant her secretary of state. and that would still get him cursed out by the American people. How can you play with peoples lives like this? It just goes to show that no matter the experience or knowledge that you've ever obtained. you are always vulnerable to making the worst mistake of your life.. To be honest I'm not even upset with Mrs. Palin. What is she suppose to do, not accept the biggest opportunity of her life. shit, if McCain or Obama would have called me I would have accepted and smiled. while being the best dressed politician ever.. She's probably a great person. great mother. strong advocate for what's right. but their are great mother's across the U.S. with the same values and I wouldn't vote for them either to be my Vice President.. But by accepting she understood that she would be scrutinized and ridiculed. so I don't feel bad at all by participating.. Now their is the possibility that she could WOW us.. I don't know what she could possibly say considering she's on the side of Bush. but we should act as honest humans and at least hear what she has to say, then make a decision. And pay close attention. because I have a feeling we're going to see her again real soon...

? why does everyone want to Look good, but nobody wants to Exercise

Get your ass up and go to the gym!.. Oh me.. I would never tell you to do something I wouldn't do. I'm @ my local 24 hour fitness 4-5 times a week, and I don't see 75% of you there.. CNN.com Health stats show only 22% of Americans work out 3-4 times a week. and 55% of peolple are unhappy with their weight.. now if you know anything about exercise, 3-4 times a week should be a minimum for you to see any true difference physically.. We all like to be acknowledged for looking good. but where is the effort?.. 'my man/woman likes me the way I am'. no they don't. there just being polite because they love you.. Exercising isn't just about looking good either, that's just one of the perks.. It's more about trying to spend as much time on earth as you can. and putting your heart to work with running (not just when your late for work) can actually strengthen it.. working out should be a priority for all adults. what else is more important than health? memberships are very affordable these days. about $35-40 per month.. that's roughly $1 and some change a day.. Now I know you take your hungry ass to McDonald's dollar menu at least 4 times a week. so spend that money on something that is going to build you up, not tear you down.. Don't forget to eat correctly also. working out and not eating right is like choosing regular gas instead of premium. yeah it works, but it doesn't run the same.. And for my ladies. exercising and taking care of yourself physically is one of the best ways to catch the good men that your looking to have. not in the gym of coarse (but who knows). but when your in your day-to-day life good men do notice a nice body through your business attire (I know I do).. As I analyze people around me. I notice that those in a good physical condition get treated with more general considerations. and usually receive better positions in companies.. not fair, but that's life.. the number one thing your suppose to take care of is your health.. So why are the numbers so low?... What do you think?-