I personally refer to this as a "Physical Understanding".. It can be one of the best experiences you've ever had. or it can be an annoying drama filled situation.. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, and a friendship with someone. the problem is when that's not properly communicated. emotions are a crazy thing, and if your not careful you can find yourself tangled in a web of them with no quick escape. what starts out as a couple of fun outings turns quickly into compulsive habits that you honestly can't control.. I think if executed properly with a common understanding, that this is the best situation for people 'not looking' to get married. it saves so
much time and energy.. Now I'm not oblivious to the fact that people aren't suppose to be having sex before marriage. but how many virgins do you know?.. don't worry, I'll wait.. It's apart of life so you might as well be
physically and mentally responsible about it. now the mental portion of the puzzle is the part that we need more practice with.. My advocacy for friends with benefits has less to do with random sex, and more to do with reality. so many great friendships are ruined when people assume that sex is enough to base a relationship on. it usually only represents 15% of a relationship anyway (unless your a beast) so what are you doing with the other 85%? titles like 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' are unofficial jokes to me. you don't owe anyone anything until a ring is put on a finger.. but there is one mandatory stipulation to this type of an arrangement. you must be ready at anytime for your 'friend' to tell you they have met someone else, and the physical part of the friendship must end. if you're not able to handle that, then don't even participate.. So the next time your getting into a relationship so you don't feel bad about the sex your having. just remember that having a title with someone in vain, is much worse than just admitting that you have a 'physical understanding' with a friend... what do you think?-
I personally refer to this as a "Physical Understanding".. It can be one of the best experiences you've ever had. or it can be an annoying drama filled situation.. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, and a friendship with someone. the problem is when that's not properly communicated. emotions are a crazy thing, and if your not careful you can find yourself tangled in a web of them with no quick escape. what starts out as a couple of fun outings turns quickly into compulsive habits that you honestly can't control.. I think if executed properly with a common understanding, that this is the best situation for people 'not looking' to get married. it saves so 
much time and energy.. Now I'm not oblivious to the fact that people aren't suppose to be having sex before marriage. but how many virgins do you know?.. don't worry, I'll wait.. It's apart of life so you might as well be physically and mentally responsible about it. now the mental portion of the puzzle is the part that we need more practice with.. My advocacy for friends with benefits has less to do with random sex, and more to do with reality. so many great friendships are ruined when people assume that sex is enough to base a relationship on. it usually only represents 15% of a relationship anyway (unless your a beast) so what are you doing with the other 85%? titles like 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' are unofficial jokes to me. you don't owe anyone anything until a ring is put on a finger.. but there is one mandatory stipulation to this type of an arrangement. you must be ready at anytime for your 'friend' to tell you they have met someone else, and the physical part of the friendship must end. if you're not able to handle that, then don't even participate.. So the next time your getting into a relationship so you don't feel bad about the sex your having. just remember that having a title with someone in vain, is much worse than just admitting that you have a 'physical understanding' with a friend... what do you think?-
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