? would your life be the Same if no one could ever find out your Negative behaviors

Ask yourself this question. if there was something you really wanted, but in order to obtain it you had to commit an immoral act. if no one would ever find out, would you do it? and be honest.. The definition of integrity is complete moral soundness and honesty. and a perfect measure of whether or not you have it or not is how you behave when no one is around.. i see people in this world and wonder if the 'cameras' weren't rolling how they would really behave, and to be honest i don't think we really want to find out.. It's human nature to be curious and nosy about things. but unfortunately, or should i say fortunately (relative to the question posed) we live in a society that is so critical that one slip intentionally or unintentionally can ruin your life.. so would more people get involved in the porn industry. would more people try drugs. would more women strip (it's easy money). would more people be either homo or bi-sexual?.. we could throw so many more examples out there but the point is that the majority of people don't do things because they don't want to. they don't because they don't want other people looking at them crazy or full of disappointment.. Former US Senator Larry Craig (Idaho) was caught last year in a men's restroom acting a damn fool. he was committing sexual and lewd behavior in a bathroom stall and a cop busted his ass (no pun intended).. he was forced to resign after pleading guilty to a charge of disorderly conduct. this is a US Senator. are you shitting me.. no matter who you are, everyone has things about them that they don't want anyone to know. and sometimes people just can't help themselves and commit the negative acts anyway.. Now this question was presented for those who need to take a look at themselves from the inside out, versus the outside in. what do you really stand for, and who are you? are you really full of shit? it's important to understand because eventually everything will come to the surface and you'll have some questions to answer.. what do you think?

? should you Cohabitate with your partner before Marriage

Do you really know the person your attempting to spend the rest of your life with? and I use the word 'attempting' strongly because of America's divorce rates. but you already know how i feel about that issue so i digress.. Cohabiting with your significant other is a huge step in any relationship, and it gives you an honest understanding of what to look forward to.. the snoring. dirty dishes. clothes everywhere. etc, is what you can clean up before you invite someone to your home.. and as people if we pay even a single dime for anything we're going to treat it as we please.. The issue of living together is less about finding out the negatives about your mate, and more about building household roles to better run your family. you don't do anything in life without some sort of preparation or test run, so why would you not prepare for marriage.. Now some people refer to this as 'shacking up' or 'playing house' and i can understand their point of view. i've cohabited once in my life and it's easy to assume the roles of husband and wife without having the title.. some would argue that the title doesn't mean anything because it's about the relationship not the titles, and they are completely wrong.. it is about the titles and the titles make the ultimate difference. by living together your putting yourself at risk of creating permanent habits that will reside once the vows are said and the cake is cut. and you may be in for a serious rude awakening after the fact.. But i believe it's important to know what your getting into, so i'm willing to take the risk of cohabitation. but you have to understand and remind yourselves of the fact that your not married yet. daily focus is a must for this situation.. The maturity and most importantly the discipline that you display during that period will be the biggest test of your relationship. so don't get ahead of yourself.. the best is yet to come... what do you think?

? are you Living or Existing on earth

Do you even know the difference between the two? if you don't then your probably apart of that majority of people in this world that is existing. but there's good news, you can change that whenever you want to.. It's approximately 6.7 billion people on earth. that's 6.7 billion different opinions, wants, dreams, and most importantly expectations.. We all wake up in the morning and intermingle with others regardless of what your physical or financial situation is, and it's very easy to get lost in the mix. i see people arriving at work with no motivation to do anything except pay bills and i wonder where is the want to be great.. there are so many professions in this world and all of them are needed in some way. but let's be honest. some professions are just more important to the general public. and those are usually the people we refer to as rich.. But whether or not your living or existing actually isn't centered around how much your making but more around the impact your making. philanthropy is honestly the number one goal of my life. there is not alot of money in it, but the impact is so great.. you have to be doing more than just paying bills and going shopping with the time your given on earth. and not because people are watching you, but because we're better than that as humans.. The same people that society admires for superior talent such as musicians, actors, athletes, etc. are just as vunerable as the people worshiping them, but it doesn't seem like it because their impact is much larger than those tuning in.. Impact. now that's the word of the day. and it summarizes the difference between living and existing.. what impact are you making on the world or better yet in your community?.. So if your a bit confused on where you stand with the question that was presented. just think about how many lives you effect on a daily basis and you'll get your answer on whether or not your LIVING or existing... what do you think?

? do you consider Not telling the whole truth the same as Lying

A little white lie never hurt anyone right? what in the hell is considered a white lie anyway. cause i sure don't know.. not disclosing each and every detail of a situation is the American way. that's how our government is able to handle a war and an economic crisis while we head to Nordstroms and Saks day after day without panicking. but when it comes to your personal issues day after day, would you really want to know everything that's going on? we all know by now the famous quote by Jack Nicholson 'you can't handle the truth', but do you truly understand what that means?.. Excessive truth and honesty are actually considered negative traits in our society.. for example. if your woman has gained a surplus of weight and asks you 'baby how do i look today?'. and you answer her by saying 'you look like a hippopotamus sweetie'. the man is in the wrong cause your always suppose to tell her she looks beautiful. but that's bullshit, and you would be lying to her.. we refer to this as having tact. but that's just another word for bullshitting.. Imagine if we lived in a world where tact didn't exist and everyone told each other what was really on their minds.. the turnover rate with everything from jobs to relationships would be ridiculous cause we really can't handle the truth.. But we can't be the type of people who desire the truth for certain things then wish for mendacious answers when it's convenient. we need to be able to do better as individuals on a day to day basis so the truth isn't so ugly when it is presented to us.. Now that brings us back to the original question. if you leave information out of an explanation should you be considered a liar? I personally believe it depends on how the question your asked is worded. cause if the other person or persons gives you room to wiggle out of an inconvenient truth, then you have every right to take advantage.. Life's all about technicalities baby... what do you think?

? what about Yourself would you be willing to Change for something you really want

Do you know who you really are? the question sounds a little obvious but you would be surprised how many people don't.. some people are too stubborn to change and lose so much. others change too much and lose themselves.. When it comes to things we want to achieve such as jobs, affiliations, spouses, etc. it's important to understand who you are to know what you would be willing to change cause eventually something is going to give. it definitely depends on who is asking for this change and why though.. Now some personal things that companies or significant others may ask for you to change such as hair, style of fashion, the way you speak (using expletives), or going to the club, I don't think are such a big deal. but asking someone to change their personal religion or beliefs is completely out of line, but you would be surprised how often this takes place as well.. Some change can be positive though such as quiting smoking. having better workout habits. strengthening your relationship with God. etc.. we're not perfect people so it's important to obtain what we lack individually from others. it's not considered copying them or losing your individuality. your merly adding to the greatness that you already possess. cause if your handling your business, 9 times out of 10 their taking something from you as well and that's what life is all about.. But whatever your not willing to change understand how you'll be perceived, right now. understand that certain organizations and groups won't appreciate particular gestures and principles you have.. I personally have a thing for tattoos. I'm going to get several of them, and some in places that will be noticeably obvious. but that's me. I understand the rules of the game and am willing to take public and at times private grief for them. but i'm going a completely different route than your conventional 'plan A'. my personal decisions have enabled me to understand which road I need to take for my success, and that is one of the most important decisions anyone will make in their life.. So if you don't know who you are, think about it. and if you do know, think some more. You will be asked to change in some shape or form throughout your life. but it's up to you to be proactive with your understanding of yourself so you know how to handle it when that time comes... what do you think?