Divorce is the least spoken about major social issue in this country.. and from what I've noticed and researched. most divorce cases shouldn't have made it to the alter in the first place.. We as people are very complex. and when we decide to take on something as huge as marriage, not enough is being considered in the process. you can't even tell the difference between girlfriend/boyfriend and husband/wife these days because the lifestyles are such the same. but it's definitely not the same.. Age has alot to do with the rate as well. in the U.S. the legal age of marriage is 18 (except for Nebraska *19 and Mississippi *21). so you can basically make a forever decision like marriage before you can have a shot of tequilla. what type of logic is that? and it's not the age, as much as it's the perception of readiness that's the issue. 45% of divorce cases are initiated because of financial
issues.. essentially couples are getting married too young w/ out enough money.. Now individually. men, we can feel a bit pressured to put a ring on a woman's finger. pressure from family, job, society, our women, even a pregnancy. and I believe it's that pressure mixed with pride that can lead to most premature decisions.. women are served with the same type of pressures. but I believe one eventually jumps above the rest, and that's the infamous 'biological clock'. that clock is the main reason many get down that isle.. assuming a woman want's to have kids anyway.. The institution of marriage has also changed over the years. gay marriage has begun being passed through a few states as of now. and who would have thought that would happen even 5-7 years ago.. Prenuptial agreements are being handed out like local telephone books. which flirts with marriage as being a
5 year commitment to having sex, and not being looked at by relatives as 'shacking up'. hanging out with other boring ass married circles. getting discounted health care. and going half on a baby.. Family members also put a great deal of pressure on you to hurry up and get married. 'when am I gonna have some grandkids!' coming from the background can make the strongest soul catch a flight to Vegas and make some bad decisions..But the divorce rate is truly at a scary pace.. look at it this way. half of the weddings you will go to in your lifetime, maybe even your own will eventually end in divorce. definitely something to think about.. and as far as which gender is more to blame. there are just too many situations that happen in life to put the blame more on either gender. hell, you can be financially stable when you start then have the wheels fall off in the middle of a great plan. But take your time, and make sure it's right. because forever is a long time.. What do you think?
issues.. essentially couples are getting married too young w/ out enough money.. Now individually. men, we can feel a bit pressured to put a ring on a woman's finger. pressure from family, job, society, our women, even a pregnancy. and I believe it's that pressure mixed with pride that can lead to most premature decisions.. women are served with the same type of pressures. but I believe one eventually jumps above the rest, and that's the infamous 'biological clock'. that clock is the main reason many get down that isle.. assuming a woman want's to have kids anyway.. The institution of marriage has also changed over the years. gay marriage has begun being passed through a few states as of now. and who would have thought that would happen even 5-7 years ago.. Prenuptial agreements are being handed out like local telephone books. which flirts with marriage as being a 
5 year commitment to having sex, and not being looked at by relatives as 'shacking up'. hanging out with other boring ass married circles. getting discounted health care. and going half on a baby.. Family members also put a great deal of pressure on you to hurry up and get married. 'when am I gonna have some grandkids!' coming from the background can make the strongest soul catch a flight to Vegas and make some bad decisions..But the divorce rate is truly at a scary pace.. look at it this way. half of the weddings you will go to in your lifetime, maybe even your own will eventually end in divorce. definitely something to think about.. and as far as which gender is more to blame. there are just too many situations that happen in life to put the blame more on either gender. hell, you can be financially stable when you start then have the wheels fall off in the middle of a great plan. But take your time, and make sure it's right. because forever is a long time.. What do you think?
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